We are delighted that Philippa has chosen to launch a birthday fundraiser to support Our Sam’s very first project through the creative arm of the organisation.
Philippa has challenged herself this year to try and live her life for herself now she has had to finally accept saying goodbye to her lifelong dream of becoming a Mum.
It is so hard for any parent losing a baby at any stage of pregnancy. It’s not just about losing the precious life of their baby, which is hard enough to cope with, it’s about the plans, hopes and dreams that expectant parents create from the first moment they find out they are expecting their baby.
The physical and emotional effects of losing a baby are so often underestimated, with an expectation that very quickly bereaved parents will pick themselves up and carry on. The expectation seems to be greater the earlier the stage of pregnancy that a baby is lost.
Whether a parent loses one baby or multiple babies, at any stage, or whether a parent goes on to have a rainbow baby, or ends up never achieving their parental dream, the effects of the trauma of loss, should never be underestimated.
Losing a baby often makes a bereaved parent feel like they no longer belong, as the world keeps turning around them and other people’s babies are born every day, and it can be so hard to see the light through the trees on dark days.
For these reasons, isolation can be a big problem for bereaved Mums and Dads, often exacerbating depression, anxiety and post traumatic stress disorders. In isolation we struggle to find perception and face a slippery slope with mental health in addition to the grief.
We often hear how music brings us together and music is certainly something that has been very special to Philippa in recent years. It has helped her escape at times, lifted mood and also held on to special memories for her.
In addition, as a result of being such a popular medium, in the words of Victor Hugo, “Music expresses that which cannot be put into words and that which cannot remain silent”, and enables us to tell a real story more comfortably, and for people to more comfortably hear it.
Our special music project will bring together Mums and Dads, who have lost a baby, or babies, whether recently, or at any point in their life and at any stage of pregnancy as a result of miscarriage, stillbirth or neonatal death. Together we hope that parents will be able to enjoy fun and laughter, and maybe learn some new skills. We also hope that together we will be able to raise awareness of the journey bereaved parents face and the strength they show after loss.
We want music to go beyond our first project, so we plan that this will just be the start.
We have been very lucky to have had some wonderful, talented people come forward, and donate their time to share their expertise and experience to help develop the foundation for this project. However to make this project sustainable, there will expenses for parents, as well as additional costs that Our Sam will need to find, and there will be opportunities for sponsorship from any interested organisations too.
We will reveal more information about our Music Project as we progress, so watch this exciting space.
Thank you to Philippa, our Founder, for launching her birthday fundraiser to help find funds for this project, and we hope that you will follow her in her personally challenging plans leading up to her birthday on the 30th September. If you would like to support Philippa’s fundraiser and Our Sam’s music project you can click on this link.
Thank you so much for your support, and if you would like further information on sponsorship opportunities, then please feel free to message us through the Our Sam website contact page.