My name is Philippa Davies, I am a writer, a postgraduate biologist and a lecturer, but most of all I’m a Mum, but a Mum with a difference.
On the 23rd January 2012, our beautiful baby daughter, Sam, was born asleep. That was the best and worst day of my life. I can almost hear the silent gasps when people read that it was my best day, but after so many years of dreaming about being a Mum, I was finally sat in a hospital room, holding our baby, and those few hours were the most precious hours of my life, and will stay with me until the end of my days.
Sam was the most beautiful little person I had ever seen, weighing 1lb and measuring 1 foot from head to toe. I couldn’t have been prouder…our little family.
She may not have ever cried, or taken a breath like other babies, but to us she was perfect. It was the worst day of my life because after those few, short hours, we couldn’t strap her into a car seat and take her home and show her off to the world, we had to leave her behind in a little white box, with a small cuddly pony that had a rainbow coloured mane, a pink daisy, a letter from us and photographs. From that day on, our lives changed forever. Today after losing 5 babies, at different stages of pregnancy, as people, we have changed forever.
Through ‘Our Sam’ and the projects and activities we have planned, we want to give baby loss a voice and raise awareness, understanding and support for anyone effected by baby loss through miscarriage, stillbirth or neonatal death, along with the mental health conditions that frequently go hand in hand. I also want to enable increased understanding as well as awareness training and support for healthcare professionals of all levels, who have to support patients going through this as part of their job.
Increased mental health support will improve patient quality of life, and at times save the lives of people experiencing one of the most significant traumas anyone can face. Supporting the Mental Health of patients in the right way, and at the right time is vital. It is equally as vital that all healthcare professionals have the right support, along with training and toolkits to enable them to provide effective patient support and guidance, but also to safeguard their own personal wellbeing and resilience.